kyroge22

wow, that seriously sucks man... is the leision inoperable?

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Acreo Aeneas

My best wishes to your mother and your family Axis.

Don't know what else to say since I'm at a loss for words. Here's a smile instead: .

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BeSiege82

How is she?

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A former platoon leader...

"Courage grows strong at the wound."
"Virescit Vulnere Virtus."

"{My grump-o-meter starts to make a high-pitched whine when I point it at your post, though.}" -- Axis

Axis of Eeevil

Great! She's dying and everything, but she'shappy, doing well, writing letters, staying busy, having visitors--and get this. She's trying to go back to some of her hospice work--that's caring for dying people until they pass away--while she's still on hospice care!

So that's a little bit of what my mom is like. The operation would be too much, she just doesn't have the strength to recover--breaking her leg is really what caused her decline thus far--the lesion started growing during her surgery recovery.

That's on of the many nasty things about cancer: it eats you alive once your defenses are down., even if it's been just dormantly lurking for years. People get in a car accident, or get pneumonia or something and all of a sudden it's "whoa, you have a tumor too, we need to operate asap"!

Right now she's doing well. It will get much worse once the pain gets really bad, and she starts starving to death...the p[art of her brain affected controls all the swallowing, eating, chewing, tongue, throat,etc. and she won't be tube-fed, so starvation or stroke are the most likely ways she will die.

There are much worse things though--if she ends up slowly suffocating, that will be the most terrifying for her; I really hope and pray nothing like that will happen.

Sorry if that's all just a bit too straightforward for you all, but we're a pretty straightforward family right now. My mom and I are both "worst-case scenario" types--we imagine the worst, figure out what we would do if it happens, then 3 or 4 other scenarios, and what to do in that case, and then we can relax and enjoy the right now. So that's just what we're doing.

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IronRhino73

We as people are amazingly strong and surprisingly frail. Your mom sounds like one fantastic woman doing the best she can under extreme conditions.

the closest situation i've ever had was our cat with carcinoma. I know its not on par but let me tell you how hard that was on the family. magnify that and thats likely your situation. stay strong m8.

Rhino

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brain21

Well, if getting rid of it will help her, but she doesnt have the strength, have you heard of proton beam therapy? Basically, it sends photons set at a certain energy and a certain amount of them so it only destroys the malignant body tissue. It barely zaps any strength and it works better than chemo. I think they have a machine for it somewhere in Texas.

Just my two cents.

and if she does unfortunately go, remember that she lived a full life and helped many people, and she lives in the memories of the families of those she cared for, as well in yours. So, in a way, she's not truly gone.

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