Elwenil

Twiggy, oddly enough, I know exactly how you feel. In 1996 I received a call at about 11PM that my mother was sick and that I needed to get to the hospital. She had a massive heart attack and had died long before she or I had ever made it to the hospital though. I was pretty much in shock and didn't know what to do. I pretty much freaked out at the hospital and left by myself to ride around for a while and think. I was 22 years old, and not quite ready to deal with the loss at the time. What you are feeling is normal and it will hit you in waves sometimes. Honestly, I think one of the worst things you deal with in this situation is all the people who genuinely offer sympathy, but tend to just keep it all fresh in your mind and you can get frustrated with hearing the same old "I'm very sorry" speech. For those of you who haven't been through something like this, you may think that sounds rude, but it's very true. Twiggy, the best advice I can give you is just to stay strong and deal with it in the best healthy way you know of. It's different for everyone but just about all of us will eventually have to go through it. Try not to be too hard on your family since they are in the same boat with you and feeling a lot of the same things. They are still family and you do need to sort of band together a bit more than usual to help each other through it. Friends can be a huge help too after the initial sympathy talks. Don't try to ignore what happened, but it's good to let off stream by doing some things you and your friends normally do for fun on any other ordinary day. If you get to the point that you feel like you are flying apart and things are just sort of closing in on you, find someone you trust and sit down and really have a good long talk. Make sure it's someone who will listen and you can really open up to when you are ready. It will help and don't ever feel embarrassed or ashamed of crying in this situation. I don't think there are many people in the world who wouldn't, given the circumstances. If you need anything from your TG brothers, we are here for you pal. Feel free to PM me if you want, I'll help all that I can.

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I'm very sorry for your loss Twiggy. As someone who works in a hospital with acute cases, I see things like this happen all the time and it's always the hardest way it could possibly happen. The most horrible part of a sudden death is that nobody ever has a chance to say goodbye. I've seen the anger and pain that comes with this kind of thing and I really am sorry for your loss. If you're a religious guy, know that your mom is looking down watching over you.

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TheSkudDestroyer

I'm sorry for your loss.

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onit

I'm so sorry for your loss, and my sincerest condolences for you and your family. It doesn't matter what age you are, what period you are in your life, it's normal to feel as you do.

Hang in there twiggy.

Axis of Eeevil

Oh, Twiggy, I'm so sorry. When you posted in my mom's cancer update threat, I had a feeling your mom was a bit closer to her departure. I can't imagine how awful life would have been if my mom had died when I was your age.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and her, my friend. May she find the peace and rest she deserves! *hug* I had a cry the other day too. It really "hurts so good", I felt much better in an awful sort of way.

*sigh*
I'll be making this post before too much longer myself, friends. I know you'll be there as we are for Twigs. May God bless you, kiddo.

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Fenian420

Damn bro, its odd how life can just come at you like that...

I remember in 7th grade, my grandma got cancer, after a month of treatment they thought they cured her, next week she was back in hospital, month later she died.. I cant imagine how it would be knowin that for your case your mother died within 24 hrs. Much respect man, if I catch myself prayin sometime this week i'll put out my prayers for you and your family,

Bamboo

I feel for you man.
Twiggy, hit me up on x-fire when you get things calmed down and you want to talk.

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I'm sorry for your loss Twig. We're around if you feel like talking about stuff and whatnot online. I hope things work out for you.

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My dad died June 15, 2005. I feel you bro.

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I am sorry for your loss.

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BeSiege82

I am sorry to hear this Twiggy. I hope you will come to peace with this sudden death.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Peace Twiggy.

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Oh, man, what a shock. My sincerest condolences, as well.

I can't even imagine the thoughts and feelings that must be going through your head, but as you've seen, we're here for you. If you need anything, just let us know and we'll try to help!

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I'm sorry to hear this man. I lost my father in '99 and it was really tough. Keep your family close. Their support and understanding will help a lot.

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Chewy

I couldn't imagine losing my mother that young (or even now). I know it must be tough but know you have some guys here that are willing to help you in any way they can. May she rest in peace and may you have the courage and strength you need to get through all of this.

You and your family our in my thoughts and prayers.

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Sorry to hear man, I'll keep your family in my thoughts.

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