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I guess one more could be a sign of the apocalypse.

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My wife and I found out last week that she is pregnant with our third child.

Anyone that knows me, knows that my children mean more to me than anything. I'd kill myself in a minute if it would guarantee them to lead safe, happy lives. I've been feeling a little bit bad that I'm not as excited as I should be. Our first daughter was planned, we made a decision to stop taking steps to prevent pregnancy and went to an OB/GYN to talk to him about anything we could do to help make sure we had a healthy baby. We had the name all picked out, everything was cool. Then she got pregnany....holy Christ. My wife had "morning" sickness 24/7 for the entire 40 weeks she was pregnant. I mean puking every morning (into a bucket, I can't get her to puke in the toilet like a normal person) which I had to clean nightly. She actually lost weight during her pregnancy....she was closely monitored and was a little overweight when she got pregnant so the doc didn't worry too much. Had to be on an expensive medicine called Zofran...which both we and the doctor had to fight the insurance company to get them to cover the cost of....each pill cost about $50 (if I remember correctly) and she was taking 1-2 a day.

Things were going well with Willow, she was perfect, didn't cry much, had all the attention she could ever want. Blah Blah, then, my wife and I have sex about ~1 month before Willow's first birthday...BAM! She's pregnant with baby #2.....an F word passed through my mind several times, but I was happy, we both always wanted at least two kids, this was just earlier than we would have planned. So the morning sickness started the morning of Willow's first birthday party. We threw a huge freaking party for her and I was cooking all of the food, I had three crock pots 1-cooking mini weinie with BBQ sauce and 2-cooking meatballs, started cooking them the night before and woke up to the aroma filling the house....Michele started puking...YAY! So life goes on, but about 4 weeks after Fiona was born I was laying in the recliner with Fiona sleeping on my chest and said to my wife, I want two more of these and she felt kinda the same way. Well then the nightime crying started, they got older, my wife got more than a little stir crazy, etc. I still kinda wanted more, but I kinda felt like it was time to be done.

So as some with kids know, your sex life with your spouse after kids can suffer, they sneak into bed, they cry in the middle of the night (espicially the first year), you're both exhausted, etc. Well Fiona turned 4 back in March and I figure my wife and I have "enjoyed" each other's company approx 20-24 times in that time frame. Because of heart issues with my wife, we use condoms....wouldn't you figure the one time we don't use a condom in 4 years and we don't do the tried and true (note sarcasm here) "pull out" or "rhythem method" she's pregnant. Not only that it was the first time in about three months, so if I wanted to, I could determine the exact date from which she got pregnant.

Now, again, I was OK with having more children, but we're having some money issues right now, we're actually filling bankruptcy (including our house), so we will have to be moving, our kids have been in a Catholic school daycare and Willow is due to start Kindergarten in the fall, tuition is expensive and Michele or I have to drive them to school because they don't run a bus system and it's a twenty minute drive. My wife Has a job she actually likes, but will have to be off in the middle of the school year to have the baby and the school's daycare doesn't watch children until they are potty trained. So we have to decide if she wants to keep working, we'll have to put the baby in another daycare and pay for it, which we didn't do with Fiona and Willow, or have her stay home. She's been talking about wanting to home school our children...that's another issue. I seem to be having so many health issues lately and work demands keep increasing...I just can't seem to get excited about having another baby, like I said, I'm not upset or disappointed we're having another baby, just not excited.

And all that coupled with having people ask me if I wanted to try one more time for that boy, really pisses me off. Like I wouldn't feel complete if I didn't have a boy. I've actually started hoping it's a girl, just so we can stop and not have any more children and show everyone I'm content having girls. I know what to do with girls, I've done the baby things with two girls, I know what to do, what's normal, what to look for, what to watch out for, I'm dreading them dating, but that's still a ways off. What the heck am I going to do with a boy anyways, Michele won't let the kids use pretend guns, not even "finger and thumb" guns, no fighting, me throwing the kids in the air freaks her out, me lifting them by their heads freaks her out more.... I always said I'd be happy with any child I had, I only hope that they are healthy, but right now, I feel like I will actually be disappointed if it's a boy and that's stupid, I only think that because of what other people think. Oh well I've ranted long enough...thanks for listening (reading, whatever) :-)

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  1. Arithea's Avatar
    Congratulations! Just caught this story on the side nav blog updates list. Sounds like you guys have a lot going on--good luck keeping your sanity! And at least you don't have people asking if you're pregnant every time you sneeze. It's great being female, of child-bearing age, and married, let me tell you.
  2. DrBeat's Avatar
    If thats how babies are born, how did cats come into existence?
  3. Catman1975's Avatar
    Oh Arithea, I lost my sanity a long time ago Thank you and I do feel for you, Michele and I hadn't been married a year and my mom (and half of Michele's family) was asking when we were going to have a baby. They had to wait six years....that was a LOOOOONNNNGGG six years. Now I get the "what were you thinking" look from my mom, since she knows the money issues we're having.


    You see DrBeat, after a daddy and mommy cat get married....oh wait, we're talking about cats....when a male cat sees a female cat....oh wait, are you 18 yet, or am I going to get in trouble for this....maybe I should just not talk about babies or kitties
  4. westyfield's Avatar
    Congratulations Catman! I hope all goes well for you and your family (sorry if this sounds fake, I know you don't like that).
    me throwing the kids in the air freaks her out, me lifting them by their heads freaks her out more
    Don't worry, children have super-regenerative-healing powers, they'll be fine.

    @DrBeat:
    When a mummy and a daddy cat love each other very much, they share a special hug and then there are kittens!
    Science!
  5. Dredge's Avatar
    Congrats on the rug rat! I used to think that I only wanted a boy, until my daughter was born. So, I know how you feel man. I hope everything works out, and if you ever need anything hit me up
  6. Catman1975's Avatar
    Westy, I don't think anyone at TG is "fake" espicially if they go out of their way to post on my insane blog


    Dredge, thanks, you never know I may take you up on your offer How many kids do you have?
  7. Dredge's Avatar
    I have one. She just had her second birthday and she is my entire world. She was born while I was on a combat patrol in Iraq.
  8. Catman1975's Avatar
    Wow Drudge, congratulations, if I knew that already, I apologize for not remembering, but still...congratulations for the baby girl and making it home to see her.
  9. Arithea's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by westyfield
    When a mummy and a daddy cat love each other very much, they share a special hug and then there are kittens![/i]
    Ew...I knew the ancient Egyptians liked cats, but I didn't think they liked them that much...

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