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    People always say that women like sex as much as men do. Then why don't they enjoy pornography? I'm not gay, but I once checked to see what is available to women in the tgp sites. Not much is available for them to look at. Sorry for bringing this up, but it's one of those questions that keep bugging me since I never can talk about it to anyone.

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    Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

    Maybe this should be sent to the sandbox?






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      Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

      *mod note*
      moved to sandbox


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        Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

        Male brains are wired with more of a bent to the visual and tactile sensations of arousal. Hence, the IKEA erotica that passes for the majority of porn is generally a male staple (a common female response to a lot of porn? it's "boring"). The brains of women tend to edge more towards the fantasy and the ... "anticipation" of sexual arousal. This is why bodice-ripper novels (a high school English teacher of mine referred to them as "bumpy cover" books) are so popular with women. It's not so much that women don't like porn, it's just that, for the most part, most women prefer a different type than most men. If you want it oversimplified: Men want action first, details second, while women want details first and action second. A woman will read 150 pages of building sexual tension to get 3 paragraphs of actual sex; a guy will go look at a skin mag.

        It's one of those things where you can just compare the stereotypes of sex, in that a guy is stated to want to skip the foreplay in favor of some quick rumpy-pumpy, then go watch football while a woman might be described as needing a night of foreplay to "get in the mood".

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        That said, my own preferences as a guy tend to fall outside the average, so I like a little of (a) and a little of (b). A pornographic scene done with care and some personality is far more engaging to me than "insert X into Y; repeat step as necessary".

        If you really want to explore this, look up an English movie by the name of "9 Songs" and compare it to a random porn video. Both movies will have some of the same goals but entirely different methods and it'll help you understand some of the differences.

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        • #5
          Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

          Mhh... I wouldn't say that women in general don't enjoy porn. Flar is probably right to a degree that women are just working in a different way.
          Nontheless a lot of women watch porn, even though it's often more for the fun of it. (Personally I couldn't stand those movies longer than 10 minutes)

          Women certainly enjoy sex as much as we do, but I think they just go another way as we do. While most (or a majority) of men use visual stimuli for masturbation, women rather use their imagination.
          Why? Maybe it's because of evolutionary processes. The male wants to spread their DNA while the female wants to keep the close community together for a higher level of security and prosperity. But I have to admit that I don't really like those (probably outdated) stereotypes. While many things can be explained with our DNA-driven instincts, a lot of things can't. Especially since we've reached a level of evolution in which the own free will CAN (can... not always will) trump basic instincts. (Movie reference not intended)

          In my own experience with women I can say that women in general do watch porn, but most of them seem to rather use them as entertainment and maybe as inspiration for 'later', than as direct masturbatory aid.
          If I would have to guess... I think women need a social component to be sexually aroused. If it's with sex (And yeah, even a one night stand has a somewhat social component, even though it differs from a relationship) or imagination. In your imagination you have a emotional bond with everything and everyone. It's part of you.
          I think most women would rather use cyber- or telephone sex as arousing factors than plain porn. (And yeah... I think most men would too x])

          The other part is of course as Flar said, that the porn industry simply doesn't produce for women.
          There are some movies out there I'm sure, but it's a minority and as long as the industry can pup out cheap, repetitive 'X into Y, money shot on Z' movies and make a ****load of money with it, why would they adapt? Men are the vast majority of buyers and most of them are easily satisfied, as long as there are always fresh and unknown women out there willing to do those movies.
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            Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

            Originally posted by joey View Post
            People always say that women like sex as much as men do. Then why don't they enjoy pornography? I'm not gay, but I once checked to see what is available to women in the tgp sites. Not much is available for them to look at. Sorry for bringing this up, but it's one of those questions that keep bugging me since I never can talk about it to anyone.
            That might be part of it? Nothing marketed towards women, so not many women look at porn.

            Also, long period of social conditioning that gets at the idea that they're really not supposed to like porn. Porn is, in American culture, a distinctly masculine thing. If porn watching (or sex-enjoying) was anywhere near as acceptable for women as it was for men, I think you'd see a rise in both outward protestations of enjoying sex and in watching porn.


            Hell, in many ways, sex is a masculine-oriented act. (here begins my 4am musing) Think about it. When you think about "sex", you think about penile-vaginal penetration. Fair enough, and certainly nicely stimulating for a male, but over (i think, its been a while since I studied this) half of women cannot orgasm through that form of sex at all, instead needing additional clitoral stimulation. But, anything that gets a lot of clitoral stimulation isn't often referred to as "sex sex", but something else, often oral or digital sex. If someone came up to you and said "I had sex last night" you certainly wouldn't assume they were talking about how they orally brought their girlfriend to orgasm. "Real sex", in other words, is what get men off. Might have something to do with it. [/musing]
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              Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

              Look at the sites that cater to women:

              http://www.google.com/search?sourcei...porn+for+women
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                Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

                Amusingly, that particular Google search is the title of a book made to be ironic and sarcastic over the very subject matter of joey's question. Hence why there is an xkcd link on the first page.

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                  Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

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                    Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

                    Look for Candida Royalle's Femme series of videos. Classy stuff "made by women for women". She has a Youtube channel.
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                    • #11
                      Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

                      Women absolutely LOVE porn. But their porn is not mans porn.

                      Even with sex porn they love it. But it ins't the same as what men like. It has to be subtle and involve shoes.
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                        Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

                        Originally posted by Flarfignuggen View Post
                        Amusingly, that particular Google search is the title of a book made to be ironic and sarcastic over the very subject matter of joey's question. Hence why there is an xkcd link on the first page.
                        The xkcd cartoon:

                        http://xkcd.com/714/

                        (Hover pointer over the cartoon for the hidden message.)
                        Dude, seriously, WHAT handkerchief?

                        snooggums' density principal: "The more dense a population, the more dense a population."

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                          Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

                          Interesting short article on the differences in the sexes' response to porn:

                          http://www.salon.com/life/feature/20...ips/index.html
                          Dude, seriously, WHAT handkerchief?

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                            Re: Why don't women enjoy pornography?

                            That article is kind of interesting in that it ends up suggesting that men end up being shy about discussing porn with their girlfriends/wives despite their participation in the subject. I wonder if that has to do with guys having less of a "coming of age" sort of situation with regards to their sexual maturation and more of a "gotta sneak it when I can"-type of situation. While that's not my experience, I know the general media usually portrays it as the teenage son having some complicated system for hiding his stack of porn magazines.

                            I suppose it's still an inherently embarrassing subject for some people but, speaking from my experience, the most sexually self-confident women I've known tended to have gotten good instruction and information from their parents when their periods rolled around. That is, subtle things like not having to turn off the lights or, even better, being familiar and intimate with their own body:row__577:. I gotta say, the worst partners have got to be those that think their own body parts are somehow disgusting.

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