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    My grandfather passed away this past weekend at the age of 94 and it hit me very, very hard, even though he's at the end of The Long Goodbye. 10 years of very difficult circumstances coupled with a deteriorating mind made for a difficult, but ultimately relieving experience.

    My dad was a marine who served in Vietnam. His father, my late grandfather, was in The War, Korea, and served the nation as an Indiana firefighter until his retirement in the 1980s.

    Dad taught me good business ethics and how to be a good man, but my grandfather had the biggest impact on me when it came to treating other people. He taught me to give people the benefit of the doubt and let people prove you wrong, while my father was more of the initially distrusting type. I am not trying to say a bad word about my dad, but to at least give reference for my statement.

    Both pop and grandpa saw horrible things when they were in combat and it affected them in vastly different ways. Both went through PTSD and were lucky enough(and insightful enough) to seek help in dealing with the things they brought back with them.

    Today, I am a good person because of both of them, but I am a kind and fair man mostly because of the influence of my grandfather. He never held malice against the people he fought, never used racist or bigoted terms and never had anything but kind things to say about people he didn't know. He saw so much death.

    For all of the negativity he(grandpa) was faced with in the Pacific, all the death, depravity, and circumstance, he somehow never let it taint his soul. My dad harbored some anger against both the military and the enemy when he left Vietnam, which is 100% understandable in this person's opinion, but grandad always taught me that people are more or less good until driven to evil. He used to say "We're all in this together, might as well make the best of it." He also told me "Anger has it's time and place and that time and place Isn't every available opportunity." He truly believed that we were never going to make it if we didn't stop hating each other for no good reason other than "The Past".

    He is finally re-united with his wife who left this Earth 10 years ago next month.

    This weekend has made me insightful and mindful so I figured I would vent some of it in a post to a community who understands what I mean.

    Thanks for listening if you had the time to read this all the way through. It's been a very difficult few days for my father and I.

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  • #2
    Re: Military Veterans - Family Death

    I read it. Kudos to you, your Dad and your Grand Dad.
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    • #3
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      Thank you for sharing. My father was in Korea, my family has many generations of military service. War leaves its mark on all of us.


      • #4
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        My condolences.
        "anger has its time and place and that time and place isn't every available opportunity."
        Love it

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        • #5
          Re: Military Veterans - Family Death

          Your grandfather sounds like a wonderful man. I understand the pain of such loss. My prayers to you and your family.


          • #6
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            RIP, and my condolences to you and your family. -from another grandson of WWII vets.

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            • #7
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              My great grandfather was in the Army and fought at Normandy and the Battle of the Bulge, and my mother's father and adoptive father were both Marines who fought in Korea. They were are all good men, who are now up guarding heaven's gate and someday I will relieve them soon. Until then, they will be welcoming all our service brothers when their time comes.

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              • #8
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                My your grandfather rest in peace Dimi. Sound like you've learned some great life lessons from him.
                Make me miss my Dad too tho'. He served on the USS Arizona and then in the Marines during WW2.

                These men are our heroes.





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