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    I'm sure that most of you have heard of this. I read about it in Newsweek a few weeks back... If not, you'll get the gist of it from this great article:

    Taken from Slate.com, by John Gravois;


    Dear Oprah,


    Not too long ago, one of your viewers—a woman named Kim—wrote you to announce that she had decided to halt her breast-cancer treatments and heal herself with her mind. Kim had just seen your two shows dedicated to The Secret, the self-help phenomenon that says we shape the world with our thoughts, and she was inspired to bet her life on it.

    You're an optimistic lady, Oprah, but this gave even you the willies. So you went on the air to "clarify your thoughts" about the Law of Attraction, The Secret's underlying theory that mind conjures matter. You implored Kim to go back to her treatments. And you told your audience that the Law of Attraction "is not the answer to everything. It is not the answer to atrocities or every tragedy."

    You saw the craziness in that logic, and good for you. But frankly, Oprah, I don't think you've done quite enough to make up for turning the Law of Attraction into the biggest thing since TomKat. Since you gave it your endorsement, The Secret has become one of the fastest-selling books and probably the most successful infomercial in history. The gaggle of gurus who peddle The Secret's message all over the world are still out there, arguing that it is the answer to every atrocity and tragedy. One went so far as to blame the suffering in Darfur on stinkin' thinkin'.

    That's a lot to answer for. But don't worry, Oprah. You still have the power to turn this entire misguided craze into a "teachable moment." And I know how you can do it. Just have your people pick up the phone right now and invite Karen Cerulo on to your show.
    Don Julio

    Cerulo, a professor at Rutgers University, wrote a book last year called Never Saw It Coming. In it, she argues that we are individually, institutionally, and societally hellbent on wishful thinking. The Secret tells us to visualize best-case scenarios and banish negative ones from our minds. Never Saw It Coming says that's what we've been doing all along—and we get blindsided by even the most foreseeable disasters because of it.

    In her research, Cerulo found that when most of us look out at the world and plan for our future, we fuzz out our vision of any failure, fluke, disease, or disaster on the horizon. Instead, we focus on an ideal future, we burnish our best memories, and, well, we watch a lot of your show. Meanwhile, we're inarticulate about worst-case scenarios. Just thinking about them makes us nervous and uncomfortable.

    A glance at a few statistics shows that most of us see just what we want. In a national survey of parents by the Public Agenda organization, a hefty majority said their child never stays out too late, never uses bad language, never wears sloppy or revealing clothes, and never does poorly in school. Only a third of American sunbathers use sunscreen, and Californians are almost twice as likely to play the lottery as they are to buy earthquake insurance. When the American Association of Retired Persons asked a sample of adults what they expected from old age, most said they figured they would always have enough money and good health to do what they wanted. And only 30 percent of Americans have written their wills.

    How is this working out for us? Think of all the times you've heard the refrain, "I never thought it would happen to me." The American Academy of Dermatology projects that one in five Americans will contract skin cancer sometime in their lives. According to the author of the AARP study, elderly Americans have a "high probability" of eventually falling into poverty, and the surveyed adults had "unrealistic expectations about their physical abilities as they grow older." (Most said they did not have a plan for old age.) And death—the event that really knocks the wind out of The Secret—still has a 100 percent chance of happening to all of us, no matter what we think.

    Your viewers ate up The Secret's advice about their personal lives. But I wonder whether they would be as enthusiastic if someone proposed running the government according to the Law of Attraction. As it happens, Cerulo spends a lot of time in her book documenting how even the public agencies designed to prevent disasters often fall victim to blindly positive thinking.

    Take NASA, for example, which ignored repeated warnings from its engineers in advance of the Challenger explosion because it was so busy envisioning a perfect blastoff. Or the FBI, which turned a blind eye to a memo from its Phoenix office in the summer of 2001—a memo suggesting that al-Qaida was using local flight schools to infiltrate the civil aviation system. Or the Bush administration, which has been roundly condemned for planning the Iraq war around a set of best-case scenarios. (What do you think The Secret folks would say about Iraq? "We will be greeted as liberators" was good, but "Mission Accomplished" was even better. Visualize, guys, visualize!) A little negative thinking might have gone a long way in all those situations.

    But unfortunately, we go to great lengths to make people who think negatively feel unwelcome—something Cerulo would probably point out if you invited her on to your show.

    Just think of all the pejorative and even pathological terms we have for doomsayers. Like, for instance, doomsayer. Also alarmist, naysayer, paranoiac, complainer, defeatist, downer, and killjoy. Rack your brain: It is hard to think of a laudatory term for contemplating the worst-case scenario. So maybe The Secret appeals because its batty metaphysics help to keep us in the positive-thinking fold. In a culture that stigmatizes negative thinking and imbues it with fear and loathing, a rationalized escape from worry is its own reward.

    But that's not the liberation we should be after. Instead, Cerulo argues we have a lot to learn from two groups of people who have emancipated themselves from the pressure to think positively. She points out that medical workers and computer technicians—the professional troubleshooters of the world—keep our bodies and mainframes running by being paragons of pessimism. When doctors and IT workers take up a case, they begin by dispassionately assuming the worst and then move up from there. Their protocols demand precise and evolving definitions of the most severe maladies and malfunctions, while they tend to have fuzzy and almost absentminded definitions of health, well-being, and normal function. That's the opposite of The Secret. While this may sometimes make doctors and techies a drag, it also helped them avert worldwide disasters like the SARS outbreak and the Y2K bug.

    Everybody respects a good attitude, but no amount of magical thinking will make the universe obey our wishes. Your audience has gotten extremely good at visualizing what it wants. But now it needs your help envisioning the risks, goof-ups, and unintended consequences that accompany life on earth.

    We're addicted to positive thinking, Oprah. And The Secret has sent the whole world on a bender. You, and maybe you alone, can rein it in. After all, the Law of Attraction isn't a force of nature—but you are. So how about it: Why not invite Cerulo on to your show? What's the worst that could happen?

    Yours truly,
    John

    *****

    We want to persuade Oprah to invite sociologist Karen Cerulo on her show, but it's not going to be easy. People are always writing to Oprah with their pet causes, angling for her attention. And pro-Secret Web sites are popping up everywhere with testimonials from devoted practitioners.

    That's why we need to your help. To make our case stronger, we need to assemble our own list of testimonials—to the power of negative thinking. Has a healthy dose of pessimism improved your life? Has envisioning the worst ever helped you to avoid a disaster? Or has an overly rosy outlook left you blindsided by calamity? We'll append your anecdotes to this letter, and send the whole package to Oprah. Write us at [email protected]. (E-mail may be quoted in a future column unless the writer stipulates otherwise.)
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    Thank you for sharing that Cing.. good find.
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    • #3
      Re: The Secret

      I hate The Secret.

      Maybe if I focus enough on hating it, The Secret will disappear.
      A policy of freedom for the individual is the only truly progressive policy. -F.A. Hayek

      "$250,000 a year won't get me to Central Park West."

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      • #4
        Re: The Secret

        I had never heard of it before now. I love my sheltered life!
        Peace through fear... since 1947!

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        • #5
          Re: The Secret

          Originally posted by icky View Post
          I had never heard of it before now. I love my sheltered life!
          Well I love snarky Google searches! I entered in "The Secret is retarded" and got a lovely article.
          A policy of freedom for the individual is the only truly progressive policy. -F.A. Hayek

          "$250,000 a year won't get me to Central Park West."

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          • #6
            Re: The Secret

            I watched The Secret. It is about nothing more then setting goals and using techniques to keep them on the forefront of your mind. Are the producers pushing the limits of a decent concept into total BULL***T for a profit motive? Absolutely!!!but this is free market America, so let the profiteers make some self help $$$$. What is astonishing to me is, there are so many people willing to abandon all reason and blindly fallow anyone who is promising answers to there unfulfilled lives. I feel slightly sorry for people looking for their heroes on TV, be it talk show hosts, prescription drugs, preacher of the day, politicians etc. What's scary is they are allowed to vote, and there are many of them.

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            • #7
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              Gawd. My mother made me watch "The Secret" on DVD. I sat there for a whole two hours going: "Oh my Gawd!" Don't get me wrong, I like the idea of thinking positively and being "rewarded" for it. But the way they put it, makes some idiot believe that the rich-targs of the world became that way due to the "Secret".

              Now, I've been partially melded with this video. I don't know what to do: believe it or cast it aside.
              |TG-18th| Acreo Aeneas
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                Re: The Secret

                Originally posted by Acreo Aeneas View Post
                Gawd. My mother made me watch "The Secret" on DVD. I sat there for a whole two hours going: "Oh my Gawd!" Don't get me wrong, I like the idea of thinking positively and being "rewarded" for it. But the way they put it, makes some idiot believe that the rich-targs of the world became that way due to the "Secret".

                Now, I've been partially melded with this video. I don't know what to do: believe it or cast it aside.
                LOL my mom made me watch too.

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                • #9
                  Re: The Secret

                  Did I mention I wasn't fooled for one darn minute?

                  My feminist-mother believes in it whole-heartedly. Why? Because her (idiot?) co-worker watched it and "claims" it has changed her life and has brought her wealth and fortune. I wonder...
                  |TG-18th| Acreo Aeneas
                  TG World of Tanks Clan Executive Officer
                  Former 9th & 13th

                  Pronounciation: Eh-Cree-Oh Ah-Nay-Ess
                  Still can't say it? Call me Acorn then. -.-





                  SSDs I Own: Kingston HyperX 3K (240 GB), Samsung 840 Pro (256 GB), Samsung 840 EVO (250 GB), Samsung 840 x 2 (120 GB), Plextor M5S (120 GB), OCZ Vertex (30 GB)

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                  • #10
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                    I guess I'm a cultural caveman because I had never heard of the secret before this thread. I harken to Dale Carnegie when I think of positive thinking. Is this secret a rehash of that approach?

                    I read the Carnegie book How to Win Friends and Influence People during an 8 week high level sales seminar. I was skeptical going in but much of Carnegie's approach is simple common sense that unfortunately isn't so common. Written in the thirties I think. Still keep it on my shelf.
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                    • #11
                      Re: The Secret

                      Originally posted by Derek Park
                      However, if my thoughts can really control reality, then everyone involved with The Secret, you’d better stay off the streets, because what I’m thinking about, what I’m really, really hoping for, is that each of you gets crushed by a runaway garbage truck.
                      Holy cow. I had the same nasty thought after watching The Secret. The world is small indeed.


                      Grunt, I welcome you to the "Secret". Now go out and buy moula copies of The Secret and pass it out to everyone you meet!

                      Not.
                      |TG-18th| Acreo Aeneas
                      TG World of Tanks Clan Executive Officer
                      Former 9th & 13th

                      Pronounciation: Eh-Cree-Oh Ah-Nay-Ess
                      Still can't say it? Call me Acorn then. -.-





                      SSDs I Own: Kingston HyperX 3K (240 GB), Samsung 840 Pro (256 GB), Samsung 840 EVO (250 GB), Samsung 840 x 2 (120 GB), Plextor M5S (120 GB), OCZ Vertex (30 GB)

                      TG Primer and Rules

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                      • #12
                        Re: The Secret

                        Oprah has a definite hold over her audience. Her loyal watchers dutifully carry out almost any task she gives them. Now, is this Oprah's fault, or is it a more telling issue of American society as a whole?

                        I can't remember where I read it, but someone put it pretty well: People love following the Alpha Male (or female in this case). Look at Bush: in retrospect, you look at his decisions and do a double-take. But one of the biggest arguement I saw for him in Texas back in 2000 was that "he made a choice and he followed through."

                        We're biologically wired to follow the alpha male. Taller people generally do better in the working world. People listen to the more assertive management team rather than the dumpy techs behind the scene.

                        I just throw this kind of stupid thinking back on the American public. We need to put the effort into doing the research and deciding what's BS and what isn't. I'm not about to hand that responsibility over to a TV personality.

                        I constantly juggle the pros and cons of pretty much any decision that will affect me more than 24-hours down the road. Sure, I'd love to win that fishing boat raffle from Bass Pro, but in actuality: I'm setting myself up to get a down-payment together and work out my finances to afford the monthly note.

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                        • #13
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                          I work in medicine, Pathology specifically. I get to see the BAD side of home cure positive vibe hippies that try to cure cancers with FEELINGS and herbs.
                          When your splayed out on the autopsy table riddled with cancer your still dead, no matter how positive you where in life.

                          Uses your forebrain when making medical decisions, it’s the thinking part!

                          Sarcoma (yes it’s a tumor)
                          Sarcoma.

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